tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9872081.post5201919984613121227..comments2023-10-16T06:18:38.847-05:00Comments on Moments of Clarity...: Choosing to LoveGretchen Magruderhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01003195142292172745noreply@blogger.comBlogger9125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9872081.post-72664098770734132962009-06-18T11:55:54.221-05:002009-06-18T11:55:54.221-05:00Thanks for the comment. I'll look up the song....Thanks for the comment. I'll look up the song.<br />This post is really thought-provoking. These are such hard questions, and it really makes one realize how selfless we need to be to be a good parent.Lorihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15553145979283388517noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9872081.post-70843064309520037552009-03-15T17:23:00.000-05:002009-03-15T17:23:00.000-05:00Beautiful post! I am so glad that you wrote it - ...Beautiful post! I am so glad that you wrote it - sometimes I think this part of the process is often left unsaid because we soo want to romanticize adoption. We're open to a girl up to 4 and I wonder all the time about the adjustment of bringing someone into our family that has already learned to do so many things THEIR way - without us. For me, I feel more prepared when I hear the whole storyJustinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02311780551011573075noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9872081.post-82008177541245273952009-03-12T09:59:00.000-05:002009-03-12T09:59:00.000-05:00I reading this great book (given to me by an aweso...I reading this great book (given to me by an awesome friend) called The Connected Child. I SO wished I had read it months ago but it probably wouldn't have hit home until I was dealing with some of the issues that have surfaced now. Anyway, it addresses exactly what you are talking about...how to guide and correct them in a loving nuturing way. It has been a God-send. It shows you how to Jillhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03058664383204901514noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9872081.post-25069992308567989002009-03-11T14:15:00.000-05:002009-03-11T14:15:00.000-05:00Beautifully written...Selah is in the perfect home...Beautifully written...Selah is in the perfect home where God intended her to be!!!Missyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08476275508300919737noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9872081.post-44785138623641495212009-03-11T12:53:00.000-05:002009-03-11T12:53:00.000-05:00Gretchen, you are a daily inspiration to us all. ...Gretchen, you are a daily inspiration to us all. I read your and Amanda Hosken's blogs daily and am learning so much. PATIENCE isn't a word, it is a daily loving choice. We are planning on an older child for our second adoption -- so know we are going to be spending some QT on the phone with you in the years to come!!Sam's momhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14081197416344159281noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9872081.post-54976886937594939602009-03-11T12:41:00.000-05:002009-03-11T12:41:00.000-05:00Even after 8 months, I still struggle with some of...Even after 8 months, I still struggle with some of these things. Thanks for this.veggiemomhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04382130007331410251noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9872081.post-39885574850355594292009-03-11T12:18:00.000-05:002009-03-11T12:18:00.000-05:00Hey, I found that parenting Abel just like the oth...Hey, I found that parenting Abel just like the other kids works best for us. The attachment is different and harder somewhat but just like I make special time with the other two, I make special time with him. Rules are rules, grace is shown to all sometime. I think the key is being patient with teaching him the rules.<BR/><BR/>I posted recently a post called "the eat crap and die look" it was Carole Turnerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01665334842192702554noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9872081.post-106151854842047542009-03-11T09:15:00.000-05:002009-03-11T09:15:00.000-05:00thanks, Krista! But I really had to write this out...thanks, Krista! But I really had to write this out because choosing to love isn't usually my first response....adoption has revealed so much selfishness in my own heart, it takes some real work to do the right thing!Gretchen Magruderhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01003195142292172745noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9872081.post-78312993015519403462009-03-11T09:08:00.000-05:002009-03-11T09:08:00.000-05:00Wow, Gretchen. I know no one is perfect, but you'r...Wow, Gretchen. I know no one is perfect, but you're an incredible mom with a beautiful heart. Reading your blog encourages me to remember and draw close to God's love...and love others in return.<BR/>I needed to be reminded of the big picture of parenting today. Thanks.kristahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00389104829935754566noreply@blogger.com