Our family has made a commitment to be an Ethiopian-American family. To not just adopt a child, but to adopt her entire family, her culture. We've been intentional about including African artwork and children's books in our home, talking about Ethiopia with our family and encouraging our daughter to share as much as she'd like about her experiences in Ethiopia. We want her to be proud of her culture and feel confident about who she is and where she comes from.
She wants to be an American. Lately she has been frustrated when we talk about Ethiopia - especially when family or friends ask questions about Ethiopia and our trip there in January. She doesn't want to practice her Amharic language when her Ethiopian friends call on the phone, insisting she only speaks English. She tells us she hopes she gets white skin when she grows up, instead of her beautiful chocolate skin. She says she doesn't like the African art or maps or souvineers around the house.
And I know it's all normal. It's normal for a kid to want to be "just like everyone else"....it's normal for her to not want to be different, to not stick out...
But regardless of how she feels right now, I know my job is to preserve that part of who she is and where she comes from. My job is to make it okay, or better than that, to make it cool to be Ethiopian. So how do I do that? How have some of you done that with your adopted children? Or how do you plan to do that as they get older?